Meditation du Jour
If this is the last time…
The remembrance that each time we meet someone, and say goodbye, it may be for the last time enables us to be more present to our friends, and less taking them, or our connection with them for granted. This in turn brings a certain completeness to each relationship.
Then, if that person should die before we see them again – or if, indeed, we are dying without having the chance to reconnect with all our friends – there need not be the pain of regret and the sense of ‘unfinished business’.
Osho explains this method: “Always remember that whenever you are with a person this may be the last time. Don't waste it on trivia; don't create small troubles and conflicts that don't matter. When death is coming, nothing else matters. Somebody does something, says something, and you get angry. Just think of death... just think of this man dying or you dying, and of what significance what he has said will be. And he may not have meant it that way at all; it may just be your interpretation. Out of a hundred cases, ninety-nine percent are one's own interpretation.
“And remember, whenever you are with a person he is not the old person at all, because everything goes on changing. You cannot step twice in the same river, and you cannot meet the same person twice. You will go and you will see your mother and father, brothers, sisters, friends, but they must have changed. Nothing remains the same. You have changed, you are not going to be the same, and you will not find them the same. If these two things are remembered, love flowers between them.
“Always meet a person as if this is the first time that you are meeting. And always meet a person as if this is the last time you will be meeting. This is how it is. Then this small moment of meeting can become a tremendous fulfilment”.